Stuck in a Funk? How to Reignite Your Spark and Feel Like Yourself Again

Do you ever wake up and feel like the world has lost its colour? You’re not sad, but you’re not happy either. It’s as if life has become one long, grey, monotonous to-do list. Nothing excites you; nothing inspires you. You feel...numb.

You’re not alone. Many people experience this ‘meh’ feeling at some point in their lives. Psychologists call it Anhedonia—the inability to feel pleasure or joy. But for many of us, it’s not just a clinical term; it’s a way of describing that hollow, disconnected state we sometimes find ourselves in………..And I know this feeling all too well.


My Personal Experience with the ‘Meh’ Feeling

There was a time when I felt like I was just going through the motions. On the surface, everything seemed fine—I was doing all the right things, ticking all the boxes. But inside, I felt empty, like something was missing. It wasn’t sadness exactly; it was more like a dull ache, a loss of connection to the things that used to bring me joy.

It took me some time (and a lot of self-reflection) to realise that this numbness was my body and mind trying to tell me something. I had become disconnected—from myself, my purpose, and the things that truly mattered to me. I wasn’t aligned with myself or my values.

Overcoming feeling disconnected doesn’t happen overnight, but with intentional steps, it’s absolutely possible. I overcame it, and you can too.


Why Do We Feel Numb?

That numbness often comes from being disconnected—from ourselves, our purpose, and from what truly matters. Life becomes a routine of doing rather than being. We focus on what has to be done rather than what we want to do, slowly losing touch with what lights us up inside.

We also live in a world that teaches us to look outside ourselves for happiness. When we feel flat, we often reach for external fixes—a holiday, a shopping spree, a new gadget, or even that tempting tub of ice cream. But here’s the kicker: while these things may give us momentary bursts of pleasure, they don’t fill the deeper void.

Because finding true joy? That’s an inside job. Overcoming feeling disconnected means turning inward rather than outward for happiness.


The Real Cause of the ‘Meh’ Feeling

If we dig a little deeper, that flat, disconnected feeling often comes from two main sources:

1.      Disconnection from Self: We get so caught up in the demands of life, work, kids, chores, emails—that we lose touch with who we really are. We forget to ask ourselves, What do I truly want? What brings me joy?

2.      A Lost Sense of Purpose: When life feels like it’s just happening to us instead of being created by us, we can lose our sense of control and direction. We’re no longer moving towards something meaningful, and that lack of alignment can leave us feeling stuck.

But there is something we often overlook: alignment is about more than just purpose. It’s about tuning into your needs, honouring your boundaries, and treating yourself with kindness. Self-love and self-care are the foundations of alignment


How I Overcame the ‘Meh’ Feeling

When I realised how disconnected I’d become, I knew something had to change. And while it didn’t happen overnight, small, intentional steps helped me move past the numbness and rediscover joy.

 

Here’s what worked for me:

I paused and reconnected with myself. I made time to sit with my feelings, journal, and ask myself the hard questions—What do I truly want? What excites me? This was the first step in overcoming feeling disconnected.

I focused on self-love and self-care. I stopped putting myself at the bottom of my own priority list. I started saying no to things that drained me and yes to things that nourished me. Whether it was a long bath, a solo walk in nature, or an afternoon of rest, I gave myself permission to receive care.

I simplified my life. Instead of trying to do it all, I focused on what truly mattered to me and let go of the rest. This gave me the space to breathe and rediscover what brought me joy.

I found joy in the small things. Whether it was savouring my morning coffee, taking a walk in nature, or laughing with loved ones, I started to notice and appreciate the beauty in everyday moments.

I revisited my purpose. I realised that I felt most alive when I was helping others, and this inspired me to take steps to align my life and work with my deeper purpose.


How You Can Reconnect and Rediscover Joy

If you’re feeling stuck, know that you don’t have to stay in this space. That ‘meh’ feeling is a signal—a nudge from your inner self telling you that it’s time to realign and reconnect.

Here’s where you can start:

1.      Pause and Go Inward

When was the last time you truly checked in with yourself? Spend a few minutes each day asking:

o   How do I feel today?

o   What do I need right now?

o   What brings me joy, no matter how small?

This simple act of self-awareness can start to reconnect you with your inner world.


2.      Practice Self-Love and Self-Care

 Self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential. When you nurture your mind, body, and soul, you’re better equipped to show up for yourself and others. Make time for rest, movement, nourishing food, and things that make you happy—even if it’s just a few minutes a day.


3.      Find Joy in the Small Things

Sometimes, we overlook the beauty in the everyday. Take a walk in nature and notice the colours of the trees. Sip your coffee slowly and savour every sip. Listen to your favourite song and dance like no one’s watching. Reconnecting with these little pleasures can gradually reignite your ability to feel joy.


4.      Revisit Your Purpose

What excites you? What are you working towards? If you don’t have an answer, that’s okay—it’s an opportunity to explore. Start small. Think about what lights you up, what energises you, and how you can bring more of that into your life. Purpose doesn’t have to be big or world-changing; it just needs to be meaningful to you.


5.      Align with Your Values

Alignment is about making choices that reflect your true self and core values. When your actions and decisions align with what you believe in and care about, you’ll feel more grounded, connected, and fulfilled.


6.      Let Go of Perfection

Sometimes we feel stuck because we’re trying so hard to do everything right. Give yourself permission to rest, to play, to mess up. Joy comes when we let go of the need to have it all figured out.

Self-reflection and self-care are essential parts of emotional well-being. The NHS mental well-being resources provide additional guidance on managing stress and reconnecting with yourself.

Final Thoughts

Feeling numb or flat doesn’t mean you’re broken. It’s simply a sign that something is out of alignment and needs your attention. By reconnecting with yourself and your purpose, and finding joy in the little things, you can begin to move out of the ‘meh’ and into a life that feels more vibrant, meaningful, and full of possibility.

I’ve been there. I’ve felt that hollow, disconnected feeling and wondered if it would ever shift. But I promise you, with time, patience, and the right support, it can—and it will.

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Does this resonate with you, and you’re ready to move past the numbness? As someone who’s been through it, I can help you reconnect with yourself, rediscover your purpose, and create a life which feels full of joy and alignment.

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